Hey guys, it was not that long ago that I was sweating bullets thinking about my bride and groom wedding speech. It’s not like Tracy and I were giving the wedding speeches together, but we sort of had to agree on what we were both going to say.  The bride and groom really need to be in synch.  Bride wedding speeches are much different than what a guy has to say.  I just made sure that I did not contradict anything that Tracy said.

Public speaking for business presentations was not a problem for me-but the idea of the groom’s speech was killing me.  All my close relatives and friends were going to be their and I was nervous as all get out!  Plus, I had no idea what my best friend was going to throw in when he gave the best man speech.  He promised that he would not throw in any “curve balls” and surprise my new wife with past blunders.

Well, being the smart guy that I am, I consulted with Dr. Google and found some awesome wedding speech guides on the Internet.  I came across a number of great resources for all kinds of speeches including father of the bride speech, best man toast, maid of honor speeches, etc.  I was able to pass on these tips to the entire wedding party through a generic email.  I did not want to come across as being bossy, so I just explained to the entourage what I was doing.

If you are interested in the guide that I used, click here to see the wedding speech ideas website.

Talking with your future wife about how you are going to give your speeches is a great idea. Most likely  you will both have a few of the same ideas for your talk such as telling stories of how you met and what you’ve done together.   Avoid cliche’s.   We have all heard them and you don’t want to be giving speeches that sound like a re-run of “Friends”.  Try to describe how you are so different than other couples.  You want people to remember your wedding speeches as something very unique.

We decided to speak about different topics. Another plan is to both cover the story of how you started dating– but from different points of view. This can make for very funny poignant grooms wedding speeches that your guests will love because guys always seem to miss a few details!  Your bride will bring in the real truth.

I will end with this final note.  While the 2 of you should plan your speeches, I would not advise to sharing everything.  You want their to be some element of surprise.   Tracy and I talked in generalities rather than specifics.

When my wife and I were planning our day of holy matrimony, we talked in depth about the giving the bride and groom wedding speech.  Essentially, we wanted to make sure that we at least appeared that we were moving in the same direction.  I did not want to ruin the element of surprise on the big day by telling her my entire wedding speech.

When you consider brides speeches, father of the bride speech, and the best man speech, their must be some continuity.  It does not mean that you all have to practice and compare notes verbatim with each other.  It’s just a good idea to have some general knowledge of what everyone else is saying.  It would be a complete disaster if you repeated stories or told conflicting events.  The best man is going to be the only wild card as the best man speech and wedding toast are reserved to sort of roast the groom.  Some grooms have no clue of this and are taken by complete surprise.  Just be prepared and suck up the ribs and jokes.

The grooms wedding speech does not have to be a master piece.  Their are so many groom wedding speech examples online that will assist you on this important day.  However,  I would be careful on what you read.  Everyone seems to have some great ideas that they never have tried.  Stick with the guys who have actually given a decent wedding grooms speech.

Perfect Wedding Speech Examples?

I am not a true believer in anything perfect.  Don’t aim for a perfect bride and groom speech-as those kind of speeches are dry and dull.  My wife and I planned to deliver congruent speeches from different points of view.  We even had a little fun with when she contradicted a few of my stories from her perspective.  It got the wedding guests laughing and me caught with “pants down”.    Groom speech jokes are perfectly fine as long as they are clean and do not embarrass anyone except the best man.  Relax, this is a day meant for enjoyment.

Groom Wedding Toast

You will be giving the groom toast, so make sure that you have a few some things jotted down on your note card or at least memorized.  You will be thanking key people that helped with the wedding.  When it’s time for your toast, take out that note card and use it to help you make the best toast ever.  Make sure that you first thank the parents of the bride for allowing you to be part of their family.  Tell them how excited you are to be in their family.  Look your beautiful bride in her eyes and tell her how much that you love her and that you are excited about spending your life together and growing old with each other.

Don’t get too sappy and keep it short and sweet.

Length of A Groom Speech

The  guests will  appreciate you for keeping it on the short side.   About five minutes is the standard and this is more than long enough to say what you have to say.   Take into consideration that many of the guests had a hard time sitting through an hour long wedding ceremony.  The father of the bride may have given a long winded speech.  Now it’s your turn to give a perfect toast that is short and sweet.   Five minutes can be long time to listen to someone talk if you are mumbling and babbling on about nothingness.    Do your home work by preparing in advance and  your groom speech will be perfect.   Most of your guests will be  forgiving if you get emotional, stutter, and forget a few things.  This is not Toastmasters or a politicians acceptance speech.   Even a well spoken 2 minute bride and groom speech can leave your guests stunned.

There are plenty of things to talk about when giving your groom speech.   Narrowing down the ideas is often hard.  I jotted down some ideas in my note pad and found them very helpful.    This in not an inclusive list.  It’s just a starting point for you.

1. Wish the guests a warm welcome.
2. Welcome the guests by name that helped out with the wedding details.  Just don’t forget anyone.
3. Thank the bride’s parents.
4. Thank your new wife-need I say more?.
5. Compliment your bride: tell her how stunning she looks. And do mean it!
6. Compliment the ones did the reception arrangements.
7. Thanks your best man for his efforts.
8. Mention how you met your wife-if appropriate.
9. Explain why you picked this particular day for the ceremony.
10. Thank the pastor or minister for all the premarital counseling.
11. Can you come up with a funny anecdote about a date that you and bride had?
12. Mention special people in both of your lives.
13. What in history happened at this wedding day? Did any famous people marry on this day?
14. Tell a funny anecdote about planning your wedding.
15. Look for funny speech topics about the groom or bride.
16. Tell a happy story of the bridal couple.
17. Thank the guests for attending.
18. Thank the bridal party for all their help and support.
19. In closing, find a funny joke that most people can relate to.
20. End your wedding speech with a toast

One of most important elements of any wedding speech is that it has to have some humor. It doesn’t have to be totally funny, but it must please the crowd. So long as there’s some funny or witty jokes, that is okay.

Now what if you’re not a funny guy? Well, don’t say any stupid jokes. But, if you are funny, then by all means say some jokes. In my experience, it’s best to use natural flowing speech, the personal, and interject a few funny jokes. Say a few emotional things, throw in a few funny and true stories.

Another great tip that I learned is to be very informal, be myself and interact with the wedding guests as if I was in a conversation with them. I used a wireless microphone and walked around the audience and made direct eye contact with people. This method really helps to relax me during my talks. Finally when giving the groom wedding speech don’t be joking around the entire time. Make sure that you are at the least somewhat serious.  The wedding speech examples and guides get into all of this.

You don’t have two be a comedian-you are just having a conversation with old friends. The jokes and humor should be spontaneous and natural. I would avoid reading jokes. That’s too old school. Even if you botch a joke, everyone will laugh and and enjoy it. You are not giving a lecture or formal speech. Relax and have some fun.

Now if you want to be a risk taker and say something funny about you and your new wife, give it a try as long as most of the funny things are about you.  It’s perfectly okay to make fun of yourself.  Funny wedding jokes are great if you can interject them in a personable and natural way.

Hi, I’m getting married next week Does anybody know how long should a groom wedding speech be? I think it shouldn’t be too long. Am I correct?
Thank you.

Tag, your it!  It’s your big wedding day and now you are contemplating the groom wedding speech that you must do.  Despite what you read on the Internet, I would not stress out too much about it.  If you plan properly, it’s no harder than having a “chat” with your buddies.  Neglect the proper planning and you will be guaranteed a disaster.  There are rules to be followed if you want to make a great talk that touches the lives of everyone involved on this special day.

I am not writing this blog to get sappy on you.  I am not chic and will not pretend to be all flowery.  This is your day and no one has to tell you the rules to the game.  But I can tell you this:  my very own sister is still pissed off at her matron of honor.  Seems like they got married decades ago.   Why is she mad?  Dunno.  Girls do the darn-est things!  Just be careful of your choice of words so you don’t get the bride and her entourage in a tizzy.   Think I understand women?  Not really.  I just know how to follow tips of others.  I can copy better than most.

The wedding speech is definitely not about you.  It’s more about thanking the people who helped influence you in your life and those who helped plan this beautiful wedding.  Let’s digress a little.  Only guys should be reading this advice.  If most guys had their way, they would skip the wedding and head on the party followed by the honey moon.  However, you are never going to get to the honey moon unless you get involved with the wedding and that includes delivering a killer speech.  So let’s get to work so you can get on with your honey moon!  So be sincere and honest when thanking and addressing people who really impacted you.

I would start out with the bride.  Let’s get real.  It’s her day.  It’s all about her.  Let her shine and be the princess.  If her mother is present, you better say something honest and nice about her.  Give her dad a few plugs too because you are marrying the entire family.

If the bride has siblings, say a few nice things about them.  If she has brothers, go ahead and share a few funny things about them.

Are you getting tired?  You don’t have to say something about every one.   Do that and you will make everyone fall asleep.  I would also make an attempt to involve all the guests.  You can do this by making sweeping eye contact with everyone.  Lock eye balls with just a few people.  Just keep those eyes moving so you can make connections.

Let’s get down to the nuts and bolts of making this speech.  I am going to shock you and tell you my secret weapon.  Write a bunch of notes on legal pad of paper and buy yourself a groom wedding speech guide.  There are tons of them on the Internet.  It’s not like you are ordering a canned speech.  Professionally prepared wedding speech can cost as much as $700.  Forget that. In my experience, you are going to sound a like a politician or a lawyer-no offense to lawyers or aspiring politicians here.  Get a $20-$30 groom speech template and plug in all your own words where appropriate.

Getting a guide is not going to solve any of your problems unless you spend an hour or two putting in your own words.  I would record your wedding speech on an inexpensive digital camera in video mode.  This will help you work the bugs out of the talk.

Bride & Groom Wedding Speech Iron Clad Rules of Etiquette

• Do not embarrass anyone
• Make your bride shine and mention how excited you are
• Say honest & sincere things about your in laws
• Don’t talk about how good of a husband you will be

So get busy and check out sites on the Internet for wedding speech examples.  There are so many sites.  Some are great and others offer horrible advice.

How long is too long for wedding speeches to go on for IN TOTAL before people get restless? The speeches will be AFTER the main course (before dessert) so people WON’T be hungry.

My fiance and I have a few people who we want to say a formal speech on top of the usual. The speakers will be (not in this order):

– Father of Bride
– Father of Groom
– Bride (I really want to speak! lol)
– Groom
– Best Man
– Groomsman (not traditional… but fiance really wants this)
– Maid Of Honor
– Brides Brother (important to me for various reasons)
– Maybe Bridesmaid so she doesn’t feel left out!?!?

I know it’s a long list… but each one is important to my fiance and/or me. What do you think? What time limit should each speech have to make this acceptable and not boring? (All of the boys are naturally pretty funny which should help at least. And the MC will be funny too)

Thanks
We’re not having a rehursal dinner.

OK, so I wrote my speech (wedding is this weekend) ages ago, but know my wife to be is telling me that the mother in law will be upset if she does not get a special mention (above my own parents) for helping us out more finacially with the wedding!
If I say the traditional, thank you to both parents, im in trouble with her side, and if i give a special mention to her side, I dont think my own mum and dad would look at me in the same way again. i mean my parent shave helped with the wedding also, just not as much.

How can I get around this!? How can I phrase the thank you to keep all parties happy?!

On Saturday, one of my boyfriend’s brothers is getting married. And I’ve been invited to the wedding. This wasn’t a problem at all. At least not until my boyfriend found out he got promoted from being an usher to being a groomsman. While that’s wonderful and all, I’ve been in this situation before: where I was the wedding date for a groomsman. Unfortunately, I had to be there early with him way before the wedding started, and I was left alone from then until way into the reception, after the maid of honor and best man gave their speeches. And it just kind of hurt and was a little embarrassing because I didn’t have a seat during the ceremony and they sat me at the bride’s family table while they were taking pictures afterwards. I was the only one sitting at the family table through the entire toasting and all of the speeches.

While I know this isn’t my day to shine or anything, I just want to know if this is how it could possibly happen again? We have to be there early so he can take pictures with the wedding party. I’m not even sure where they’ll seat me. And while my boyfriend says I’ll be sitting with his family during the ceremony and during the dinner at the reception, I know that in most cases, they have the family up by the altar and have them sit with the bride and groom during dinner.

So my question is, what should I expect to happen with me? Should I expect to be seated randomly or just completely forgotten about? I’m just really nervous and I know that if I know ahead of time, I can keep my chin up a little more. Thanks for anyone who answers.
We’re taking my car to the wedding. His car does not do too well on the Interstate.
Unfortunately, I don’t really know any of his family very well and I’m afraid that it’s going to be quite awkward. Plus, I’m a very shy person at times.